Dating protocol first dates
If you have cheese and charcuterie awaiting her, that's at least five automatic points in your favor. You're not going to look "lame" if you slow down and stop ordering cosmos once you feel a buzz -- but you WILL look like a complete slob kabob if you keep downing booze with him and subsequently yak under the table -- or worse, start crying because you miss your ex.
But if you're dating because you want a relationship and not just a date, making a connection and getting that second date (and third and fourth) is the whole point.
But it's also a great opportunity to feel out your date and learn her drinking preferences.
Translation: her opinion matters to you, which is already a great start! Don't try to placate your nerves with a martini or three at your apartment before even heading out to meet your suitor.
Before choosing the venue, ask for her drink of choice -- she could be allergic to wheat, in which case, skip the beer hall. Showing up to your plans already reeking of the inside of a Smirnoff bottle is not at ALL becoming -- it also suggests you're not taking the date seriously.
She could She could also hit you with "I don't drink," which is a completely acceptable decision that you shouldn't press too much; now, at least you can prepare to dial down your standard four rounds. And since it’s WAY easier to create a reputation than erase one, you'll forever be What you choose to sip on during a first date reveals a lot about you.