Dating while getting divorced
And while I'd never want to throw cold water on a budding romance, I have some words of wisdom that I'd like to share.I have an immense amount of experience helping individuals and couples make it through the divorce process. You want to lay the groundwork for a new, strong relationship while you're in a "good place" emotionally, psychologically and perhaps even financially, too.Generally, if you use discretion and common sense and make an effort not to expose your children to your new boyfriend or girlfriend, it shouldn't be an issue. Maybe -- or maybe not It's interesting to note that second marriages have a higher divorce rate than first marriages.While the reason for this higher divorce rate is unknown, it could be that some of these second marriages got off to a rocky start, because the ex-spouses didn't deal with the emotional impact of their divorce, and aren't really ready for another relationship -- at least, not yet. If you are thinking about dating during divorce You may think that you are free to start a new relationship once the decision is made to separate or divorce.
This isn't necessarily a bad thing, in fact, it proves they were — and therefore likely still are — able to really commit to someone. And before you ask yourself, how will I know if he or she is ready? Now of course, not everyone going through a divorce is a lost cause — Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger even calls divorced men the best kept secret.
However, as separation can be a very sensitive time, discretion is often a good idea.
There is little to be gained from announcing to the world that you are dating while matters are not yet settled.
You also need to be aware that the process can be time consuming and, at times, exhaustive and difficult.
After all, even the most amicable divorce is still a divorce, and it's human nature to feel angry, sad and disappointed -- and sometimes, all three at the same time.