How to stop being accommodating
You are invited to add any materials to the ceremony.This may be a favorite poem, something you have written yourself, or a reading you wish to add.Occasionally, a couple will have the children asked, "Do you accept this family and the marriage?" Care should be taken in this decision, as sometimes the child is not completely comfortable with the marriage.If children are coming into the marriage, there are many different ways to involve the children in the wedding ceremony itself.I believe it is very important that if children are coming into the marriage that they be recognized or participate in some aspect of the wedding ceremony itself.
It is appropriate that the mother of the Bride and the mother of the Groom each lit these candles as it is from these from which the light of your life first shown forth..."If adding the Rose ceremony to the marriage ceremony, couples will often stop on their exit and hand the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom each their Rose, whispering "I love you" before proceeding with their exit.They also do not know what they are supposed to do after the ceremony ends. The couple should simply take a moment to hug their child/children, thank them for helping in the ceremony, and then telling them they are free to play. With many weddings, a good way to involve children (except very young) is to give each their own one-time use camera and have them take pictures they think are important.It will be interesting to see what pictures they take and the photos could be theirs later when developed.Generally, children will not share your sense of excitement about the wedding. Usually, giving children major roles in the ceremony quickly becomes chores.It is generally best to give a child only one active role and also to be mentioned in the ceremony, rather than to actively involve a child at many different points throughout the ceremony.